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Uncategorized Feb 25, 2021

"What is your WHY?"

Doing some reading on marketing, I kept coming back to this phrase.

As much as I dread marketing speak like this, I've realized that this concept might help center me.

My ADHD brain needs routine and grounding; clarity on why I would prefer to live with intentionality. 

If I get hit by a car tomorrow, will I have made the most of my gifts?

Which suffering have I endured, and walked through, which I can help someone else with? What healing can I be a part of?

Sitting in a 12 step meeting 2 years ago it started to become clear to me.

It was a men's meeting of roughly 12-14 guys. The majority of them had achieved long term sobriety from alcohol (a decade or more). The topic though, was sex addiction and porn. In 16 years of meetings, I had never heard this topic come up.

Nearly EVERY gentleman there, was struggling with pornography or compulsive sex, and it became clear from their shares that there was a tremendous amount of shame...

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recovery hack Jan 27, 2021


Welcome to our blog, and my first post. I am hoping that this blog becomes  a resource for people in recovery.

Please note that ANYTHING posted here is simply OPINION, and not the gospel!

I believe that we all "do recovery" at our own pace, and learn the lessons that we learn, just as we are intended to learn them, by divine grace.

It took me a LONG time to really get this lesson: First thing's first.

How I start my day has an enormous impact on my experience moving forward.

Very, very often when I first open my eyes in the morning, I am greeted by a voice in my head called "the monkey" (used interchangeably with "the disease," "the 10,000 pound Gorilla"). We can call it the "hyper-critical parent" too. 

The monkey says something like this: "what's up jackass! Top of the morning to ya! Are you ready for things to finally, and completely unravel today?" It will then run through every possible failing that I could possibly face, and ensure me that they will come...

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Video: The 4 Types of Life in Sobriety: Which one are you just for today?

Uncategorized Jan 27, 2021



4 Ways to Live Sobriety (video below)

For whatever reason I love talking sobriety with my buddies in recovery. Sobriety has given me so many things! One of the one's that I value the most is meaningful, deep, relationships, where I am able to talk about ANYTHING without fear of judgement. 

The topic of today's blog post is something that I discuss often with my core recovery buddies here in Miami, and usually comes up in conversation as a question like "how you livin' papa?" Our conversations seem to be fun, light hearted, and brutally honest.

If I can get honest with myself, it allows me to be honest with others, and vice versa. I am not talking about "cash register" honesty here, but more the freedom to be introspective and transparent. 

So, how AM I livin', IN SOBRIETY, today?"

Wow! Good question?!

Life one day, and one moment at a time can feel wonderful, terrifying, stale, exhilarating, serene, "connected," and everything in between.


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