Give yourself credit for progress you have made. Record specific examples that have occurred in this last six months. Which of these needs to be expanded. Underline the one you can expand.
Rate yourself on 12 dimensions of healthy sexually using a scale of 1 to 10. One would mean little or none in my life, five would mean adequate, 10 means excellence in this area.
Specify goal you have to improve your sexual healthy in each dimension. Use the "positive sexual focus" to help you think about your goals. Also consult with your support group and therapist.
List one specific behavior you can focus on each day which would make an improvement in your sexuality. When finished, select the top seven by circling them.
Nurturing: the capacity to receive care from others and provide care for self
Sensuality: the mindfulness of physical senses that creates emotion, intellectual, spiritual and physical presence
Self-image: a positive self-perception that includes embracing your sexual self
Self-Definition: a clear knowledge of yourself, both positive and negative, and ability to express boundaries as well as needs
Comfort: the capacity to be at ease about sexual matters with onself and with others
Knowledge: a knowledge base about sex in general and about one's own unique sexual patterns
Relationship: a capacity to have intimacy and friendship with both same opposite gender
Partnership: the ability to maintain an interdependent, equal relationship that is intimate and erotic
Nongenital sex: the ability to freely express erotic desire emotionally and physically without the use of genitals
Genital sex: the ability to freely express erotic feelings with the use of genitals
Spirituality: the ability to connect sexual desire and expression to value and meaning of one's life
Passion: the capacity to express deeply held feeling of desire and meaning about one's sexual self, relationship and intimacy experience.