Stage Three: Life Breakdown
Stage Three: Life Breakdown Addict’s life will literally start breaking down (emotionally, physically, spiritually, mentally) under the stress caused by the pain, fear, and anger that results from all the acting out. Acting out no longer produces pleasure. The pain is inevitable. Start behaving in ways we never thought possible, we get […]
How Do I Know if I’m a Sex Addict?
Many people are surprised to hear that sex addicts tend to be very high functioning people. In fact, many sex addicts are very accomplished and have positions of prominence. Individuals are typically identified as sex addicts if their compulsive sexual behavior is having a negative impact on their life in any way. One typical screening […]
Where does the addict look to reintegrate a fragmented self?
Shame and Denial I wanted to share some preliminary ideas that I am going to be writing about which address the common hurdles that sex addicts face before they are ready to break through denial. Because of the heavy shame component of sexual addiction and compulsion, 12 step fellowships alone may not be enough to […]
Do we need couples therapy? Joanna’s Answer
The question that most couples ask themselves at some point in time, and are afraid to answer is: do we need therapy? It has been believed that therapy is only required in the most desperate of circumstances; when the relationship is seriously on the rocks. The plane is just about to hit the mountain….and […]
The Importance of Sex
Sex is extremely important inside a relationship. In fact, it is difficult to understate how much a happy and fulfilling sex life begets and reflects a healthy relationship. The fact is just this: we are sexual beings! Having fulfilling sex it is one of the most basic needs and desires in life, which is in […]
Why Couples are Seeking Counseling Services
Despite what many may believe, couples therapy does not only focus on major problems, infidelities or betrayals. In this post we are going to tell you about the 5 main reasons why couples are seeking counseling. The primary reason couples seek therapy can be distilled to just this: learning how to communicate successfully. The issue […]
UPON AWAKENING – PREEMPTING THE MONKEY
Welcome to our blog, and my first post. I am hoping that this blog becomes a resource for people in recovery. Please note that ANYTHING posted here is simply OPINION, and not the gospel! I believe that we all “do recovery” at our own pace, and learn the lessons that we learn, just as we […]
Video: The 4 Types of Life in Sobriety: Which one are you just for today?
4 Ways to Live Sobriety (video below) For whatever reason I love talking sobriety with my buddies in recovery. Sobriety has given me so many things! One of the one’s that I value the most is meaningful, deep, relationships, where I am able to talk about ANYTHING without fear of judgement. The topic […]
The THING that is GETTING people in AA/NA Stoned again
“What is your WHY?” Doing some reading on marketing, I kept coming back to this phrase. As much as I dread marketing speak like this, I’ve realized that this concept might help center me. My ADHD brain needs routine and grounding; clarity on why I would prefer to live with intentionality. If I get hit by a car […]
Taking my inner child to the batting cages! Carving out one on one time with my inner child.
Inner child work in recovery I had a realization about why I have been feeling so fearful, alone; about work, fatherhood, my career, and being a good husband. I seem to be trying to prove that I am “good enough”. Feeling unloved, unlovable, frightened, and mired in self-pity! Wow, just hearing myself say that […]